Sex & Kink

Sex has many functions: It’s a path to exploring forms of desire; it creates and expresses excitement, connection, and attachment.

Some people feel that their desires and ways of expressing their sexuality are unconventional. They anticipate judgment or misunderstanding if they reveal them.

How Do Therapists Understand Sex and Kink?

A therapist from Toronto Psychotherapy Group can address your concerns about or support your exploration of the role of sex and/or kink in your life. It can feel freeing to better understand your way of expressing sexual connection, in conversation with a therapist, especially if this area of your life defies convention.

What Defines Kink?

Kink, or kinky sexual expression between consenting adults, can express intimacy that includes erotic, physical, psychological, and spiritual aspects. Some kink explores role-playing or power dynamics. Fantasy and creativity can unfold in kink. Often the combination of many aspects come forth in shared experience with another, or others.

There are countless ways of exploring sexual boundaries or taboos. The description or definition what is or is not kink (e.g., BDSM, sexual fetishism) varies widely.

How Do Psychotherapists Work with Sex, Kink, or Fetishes?

Therapists who list kinks and fetishes as areas they work with will engage you in open, reassuring, and nonjudgmental conversation. The aim will be to explore your experience of sexual expression, with respect and curiosity.

Seeing a therapist who is sex- and kink-positive may involve one or more of the following:

• Exploring the nature of your particular sexual expression(s) in ways that are affirming
• Creating supportive conversation about your draw to your particular kinks or fetishes
• Addressing any shame or stigma associated with your kinks or fetishes
• Offer non judgemental support as you find a place within a fetish or kink community, if that is your desire

Further Reading

For further reading on non-conventional sexual practices.